Do you wonder: “Is he doing this to me on purpose? And if he is knowingly being cruel, neglectful and controlling, then I find that too hard to take, that he would be so calculated in his nastiness to me. I’ve not done anything to create that.” Do you wish: “I’d rather he did not know what
Physical violence
Tactic #16 — Physical Violence: How to understand Men’s Motivations
– Posted in: Intimate partner abuse Male perpetrators Physical violence Why does he do itThis is the sixteenth of 16 blogs discussing the patterns of tactics from my power and control wheel — Physical Violence. This blog focuses on men's motivations for using coercively controlling physical violence against female partners. A man interviewed by Jeff Hearn(12) said: “I don’t let it lie, because I always want to have the
Gender: How Men and Women Experience Domestic Violence Differently
– Posted in: Intimate partner abuse Myths about Domestic ViolenceHowever, this blog post is about heterosexual relationships. Understanding the role that gender plays in domestic violence in heterosexual relationships is important because there are differences in perpetrators’ motivation and intention, differences in severity of abuse, differences in one-off isolated acts of abuse compared with repeated ongoing patterns of abuse. There are differences in the
Alcohol and murder
– Posted in: Alcohol & violence SAFETY of Women & ChildrenIn today's issue of the New Zealand Herald I read another example of a male perpetrator of domestic violence and psychological abuse who intended to harm his partner - but used alcohol as an excuse to minimise his responsibility. Snippets from the article say: "Ross Simon Fraser has admitted beating his partner Joanne Thompson to
Feeling bemused about helping women abused by male partners – Stage 2
– Posted in: Helping victims/survivorsSTAGE 1 How to help women abused and controlled by male partners STAGE 2 Feeling bemused about helping women abused by male partners STAGE 3 Confused about helping women abused by male partners? STAGE 4 Helping women who are refusing to be abused STAGE 5 Women mentally bruised by male partners: How to help During
Domestic violence is much more than physical violence
– Posted in: Physical violenceDomestic violence, family violence and intimate partner violence - when perpetrated by men against their female partners - are terms riddled with stereotypes that seep into the public consciousness. The man is labelled a batterer, his victim a battered woman. Everyone knows violence against women is wrong so the social myths help to make rational