Coping strategies

Women who have male partners who psychologically abuse, restrict, control, manipulate and rob women of their sense of self, need a safety plan whether their partner ever lays a finger on them or not. Many controlling men stalk, threaten and harass women who leave. Other controlling men use physical violence, or threaten to kill, or

The following is an interview I conducted with Margaret Jones PhD, who has written a book about her experiences titled: Not of my making: Bullying, scapegoating and misconduct in Churches. Clare: What were the tactics of bullying, scapegoating, misconduct and psychological abuse that you experienced as the target of those tactics? Margaret: My adversaries refused

The other day I met a social worker/counsellor at a seminar. When she found out I research domestic violence she immediately told me that women who stay with violent men are codependent. She said such women were just the same as women who live with alcoholics. She was not interested in another view because she

But this does not mean they enter a relationship that leads to abuse and control. However, this was the case for many of the women I interviewed in my Masters research, and many of the women I see for counselling. Some women talk about having their life mapped out for them. For example, whether or

Women I interviewed for my Masters research said that before marrying, most of them had total belief in their partner – because he was a man. The women said that trusting and believing their partner - just because he was a man - was socially encouraged. In other words when he used abusive language, or

STAGE 1 How to help women abused and controlled by male partners STAGE 2 Feeling bemused about helping women abused by male partners STAGE 3 Confused about helping women abused by male partners? STAGE 4 Helping women who are refusing to be abused STAGE 5 Women mentally bruised by male partners: How to help Maintenance

STAGE 1 How to help women abused and controlled by male partners STAGE 2 Feeling bemused about helping women abused by male partners STAGE 3 Confused about helping women abused by male partners? STAGE 4 Helping women who are refusing to be abused STAGE 5 Women mentally bruised by male partners: How to help Stage

STAGE 1 How to help women abused and controlled by male partners STAGE 2 Feeling bemused about helping women abused by male partners STAGE 3 Confused about helping women abused by male partners? STAGE 4 Helping women who are refusing to be abused STAGE 5 Women mentally bruised by male partners: How to help When

STAGE 1 How to help women abused and controlled by male partners STAGE 2 Feeling bemused about helping women abused by male partners STAGE 3 Confused about helping women abused by male partners? STAGE 4 Helping women who are refusing to be abused STAGE 5 Women mentally bruised by male partners: How to help During

STAGE 1 How to help women abused and controlled by male partners STAGE 2 Feeling bemused about helping women abused by male partners STAGE 3 Confused about helping women abused by male partners? STAGE 4 Helping women who are refusing to be abused STAGE 5 Women mentally bruised by male partners: How to help When

I had two clients arrive today in tormented distress. One client was confused about her husband's behaviours. She was also distraught because she is yearning to leave, but feels guilty at the thought of doing so. She wants to leave but is still confused about why he continues to be abusive and controlling despite the