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Learn About Coercive Control and Psychological Abuse

Online private Counselling and Coaching. Also Online Supervision for Professionals.

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    If you are living with an abusive person and intend continuing to do so

    I can help you to Increase your strength and resilience to continue in the relationship.
 Learn strategic ways of communicating with an abusive person.

    If you want to leave the abusive person

    I can help you to Empower you to make the decision. 
Develop a safety plan and strategies to make the move when you’re ready. 
Help you with strategies to cope with any negative impacts.

    If you have already left an abusive person

    I can help you to Increase your ability and commitment to continue living without the abusive person in your life. 
Heal from abuse and be supported in creating a new life. 
Reclaim control over your life.

    Regardless of your situation I can support you to:

    • Get Unstuck and make sense of your issues.
    • Decide on some goals, assist you with strategies and motivation to achieve your goals.
    • Gain skills to cope with emotional distress.
    • Clarify your thoughts, needs and wants.
    • Learn proven techniques to manage stress and anxiety.
    • Build your self-esteem and confidence.
    • Feel more hopeful, positive and alive.
    • Arm you with strategies to cope with debilitating anger, and other effects the abuse is having on you.
    • Work with you to lay the ground for you to grow and flourish into your full alive authentic self.

    If you are a friend or family member wanting to support your loved ones I can assist you to:

    • Understand the dynamics of coercive control and abuse specifically related to what your friend/family member may be experiencing.
    • Establish a range of strategies suited to the particular situation you’re dealing with.

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    My office is in Brisbane, Queensland, Australia

    CONTACT ME to discuss Professional Supervision and Professional Mentoring.

    Using Skype or Apple FaceTime,  I supervise and mentor general counselling and psychology practitioners, domestic and family violence workers, advocates, social workers and other professionals who deal with domestic violence in any way in your work.

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    I bridge the gap between psychology and sociology


    Clare Murphy PhD

    You cannot fully understand yourself without understanding the bigger social picture. I combine the psyche with social forces. Not just one piece of the jigsaw – you get the big picture – the good and bad, beautiful and ugly. I take a wide view of the person and of society. Every thought you have, every feeling you feel, every action you take is shaped by society and – in turn – you shape society. The relationship between individuals and society is complex, multifaceted, and full of contradictions. The tangle often confuses us. So I help you unravel the threads – what is important to you and what is not. I help you change what you can, and help you accept the things that you cannot.

    Do you want to stop being trampled upon by others and to start honouring yourself? Maybe you’ve been told you won’t amount to anything, that you’re stupid, not good enough or that you’re unworthy. Do you want to break free, reclaim yourself and to just be happy? Do you feel stuck in the middle of confusing messages and don’t know which way to turn? Seeking support, clarity?

    I challenge popular myths, misnomers and stereotypes

    For instance, when it comes to gender there almost seems to be a war of two different worlds. But we are all the same human family on one earth, all seeking shelter, sustenance, safety, love and support.

    Where each of us differs, both men and women, stems from our own unique viewpoints, unique life courses and influences.

    Our families, our culture and the civil society in which we live have broad rules which seek to stuff us in convenient boxes. But humans can never survive in a “one size fits all” category. There are too many hidden, tricky and conflicting parts of ourselves. Each individual and every collective group of men and of women has vast, multiple understandings learned from our birthplace and the places we grew up, learned from the people who surrounded us and taught us, and learned from those who have wronged us.

    We need to learn fact from fiction. We need to understand the parts of life we can change and those we cannot. We need to learn our own true inner story and move on. That’s where I’m going.