I recently co-wrote two issues papers that address children's exposure to intimate partner abuse. They're available here. The first paper is titled Understanding connections and relationships: Child maltreatment, intimate partner violence and parenting and it explores: The links between child maltreatment and intimate partner violence The detrimental effects of children’s exposure to intimate partner violence The
Children’s exposure to abuse
Tactic #11 — Using the Children
– Posted in: Children's exposure to abuse Intimate partner abuse Male perpetrators Why does he do itThis is the eleventh of 16 blogs discussing the patterns of tactics from my power and control wheel — Using the Children.Ways men use the children to maintain power and control or to punish their partner or ex-partner include demanding that she do all the childcare, making her feel guilty about the children, telling her
Language women should use in the Family Court
– Posted in: Child custody Children's exposure to abuse Social Institutions & AbuseMost women who attend counselling – to come to terms with their partner’s psychologically abusive and controlling behaviours – often beat up on themselves saying: “I let it happen” and “I feel like I’ve failed”. Women describe feeling emotionally beaten down, shame, guilt, anger, sadness, depression, lack of confidence, insecure, discouraged, defeated, desperate, fearful, anxious
Why do so many women lose custody battles?
– Posted in: Child custody Children's exposure to abuse Social Institutions & AbuseWhy are so many women who are psychologically abused and controlled by male partners losing court battles for custody of their children? Whether men deliberately aim to gain and maintain power and control or not, this is the effect on women. If you look at the hierarchies of power and control in nearly every social
Abusers gain custody of children
– Posted in: Child custody Children's exposure to abuse Social Institutions & AbuseThis blog has been revised because the video I wanted readers to see has been removed from the internet, so I've left this short blog post here so that all the comments can remain. Previously I introduced a video on PBS video to hear children talking about the impact of domestic violence and the failure
How to Stay Safe When You Leave a Controlling Partner
– Posted in: Children's exposure to abuse Helping victims/survivors SAFETY of Women & ChildrenWomen who have male partners who psychologically abuse, restrict, control, manipulate and rob women of their sense of self, need a safety plan whether their partner ever lays a finger on them or not. Many controlling men stalk, threaten and harass women who leave. Other controlling men use physical violence, or threaten to kill, or
Animal abuse linked to domestic violence
– Posted in: Animal abuse Children's exposure to abuse Male perpetrators Warning signs of abuse Why does he do itSome male perpetrators of domestic violence harm family pets to get power and control over their wives and children. Men's cruelty to companion animals silences women and children and is used to gain compliance, instill fear and prevents women from leaving and abusive relationship