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Warning signs of abuse

Jekyll and Hyde: Will the ‘real abuser’ please stand up

– Posted in: Male perpetrators Warning signs of abuse Why does he do it

Most women who come to me for counselling are often confused and exasperated by their male partner’s flip flopping between ‘good guy’ and ‘bad guy’. Pauline said her husband Chris, “would be so lovely and charming to other people and so shit horrible to me.” Peter, a man who’d attended a stopping violence programme told

The Emperor has no clothes

– Posted in: Belief in a Just World Gender socialisation Intimate partner abuse Male perpetrators Social Institutions & Abuse Warning signs of abuse

Women I interviewed for my Masters research said that before marrying, most of them had total belief in their partner – because he was a man. The women said that trusting and believing their partner - just because he was a man - was socially encouraged. In other words when he used abusive language, or

Men’s tactics of coercive control against female partners

– Posted in: Male perpetrators Warning signs of abuse Why does he do it

The following list of tactics of power and control summarises the list that you can download by subscribing to SpeakOutLoud in the side panel.   I have written separate blog posts explaining each of the following ways men use coercive control against female partners: One-sided power games including behaviours that ensure he has his way at her

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