Warning signs of abuse

Most women who come to me for counselling are often confused and exasperated by their male partner’s flip flopping between ‘good guy’ and ‘bad guy’. Pauline said her husband Chris, “would be so lovely and charming to other people and so shit horrible to me.” Peter, a man who’d attended a stopping violence programme told [...]

I wrote a blog post Warning Signs of Coercive Control by Your Partner for the Home & Family Counselling organisation's Blog to give women some pointers about warning signs of coercive control by a male partner. Clues to warning signs that you're in a relationship that is highly likely to continue to get worse - [...]

Perhaps you got into the relationship quickly, maybe had sex much sooner than you wanted. Maybe you didn’t develop a friendship before suddenly spending most of your time with him and hardly, if ever, seeing your friends or family any more. Your life may have narrowed so that you’re no longer pursuing your own interests [...]

Women I interviewed for my Masters research said that before marrying, most of them had total belief in their partner – because he was a man. The women said that trusting and believing their partner - just because he was a man - was socially encouraged. In other words when he used abusive language, or [...]

Some male perpetrators of domestic violence harm family pets to get power and control over their wives and children. Men's cruelty to companion animals silences women and children and is used to gain compliance, instill fear and prevents women from leaving and abusive relationship

Today I uploaded an extensive list of power and control tactics as used by those men who abuse and control their intimate female partner. (I've updated the list as at 1 October 2014 to include cyberbullying and other forms of abuse using technology). The following list of tactics of power and control summarises the list that [...]