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Important Safety Information

  1. Three things you need to understand to keep you and your children safe when you’re thinking of leaving
  2. How to Stay Safe When You Leave a Controlling Partner
  3. Warning signs that your male partner is emotionally controlling you
  4. Warning signs of coercive control
  5. Men’s Cyber Abuse against intimate female partners: see the safety tips section

Myths and Facts about Domestic Violence:

  1. Abusive vs healthy relationships: What’s the difference?
  2. Alcohol does not cause domestic violence
  3. Alcohol used as excuse for violence and murder
  4. Domestic violence is much more than physical violence
  5. No bruise no victim? Why women and society miss the cues of coercive control and psychological abuse
  6. Men’s domination over women is not natural: The need to be honest about how social hierarchies harm each of us
  7. Female victims are not codependent, rather what they experience is a result of long-term abuse and control
  8. Is men’s abuse of female partners an individual problem or a social problem?
  9. How to Know if a Woman is in Danger of Being Killed and What You Can do About it
  10. Do people use abuse on purpose?
  11. How Men and Women experience domestic violence differently
  12. The Emperor has no clothes: The truth about men’s domination over women

How to support female victims of intimate partner abuse:

  1. How to help women abused and controlled by male partners: Stage 1
  2. How to help women abused and controlled by male partners: Stage 2
  3. How to help women abused and controlled by male partners: Stage 3
  4. How to help women abused and controlled by male partners: Stage 4
  5. How to help women abused and controlled by male partners: Stage 5
  6. How mothers can support daughters coping with an abusive male partner

Family Court issues:

Helping women uncover their strategies of resistance to record in Family Court documentation
Abusers gain custody of children
Language women should use to persuade Family Court Judges of their competence

How victims cope with abuse:

  1. How victims cope with psychological abuse and control
  2. Are women who live with abusive partners codependent?
  3. Do you believe the world is just? Believing this can keep you trapped in relationship
  4. Suggestions for dealing with Anger that just won’t go away
  5. Three reasons why women stay with a controlling partner

Bystander intervention:

Here’s Why Men should Challenge Men to Stop Abusing Women: Male Allies are important for prevention

About male perpetrators of intimate partner violence:

  1. Animal abuse is linked to domestic violence
  2. How to muster the courage to step away from bad relationships
  3. Men’s tactics of power and control against female partners
  4. Gift giving can be manipulative
  5. The effect of men’s tactics of control make women seem codependent
  6. “Ensuring our manhood stays intact” – the influence of social constructs of masculinities on men’s abuse of women
  7. Jekyll and Hyde: Will the ‘real abuser’ please stand up!
  8. Coercive Control is a criminal offence: One man’s story of coercively controlling his wife
  9. The Mask many boys and men hide behind
  10. Are you struggling to come to terms with your partner’s abusive behaviours?
  11. Abusers abuse others on purpose: Coercive control is intentional
  12. The myth of the alpha male
  13. Male bonding. A finishing school for equality or a shaming machine?

Tactics of Psychological Abuse & Coercive Control:

  1. Tactics used by Lawyers against Clients (Blog post)
  2. Tactics used by Lawyers against Clients (Download pdf of Lawyer-Cient wheel and complete list of tactics)
  3. Tactics used by men against female partners (Blog post)
  4. Tactics used by men against female partners (Download pdf of complete list)
  5. Steps toward Averting Tragedy: The homicide-suicide link
  6. A new power and control wheel
  7. Tactic #1 — One-Sided Power Games
  8. Tactic #2 — Mind Games
  9. Tactic #3 — Inappropriate Restrictions
  10. Tactic #4 — Isolation
  11. Tactic #5 — Over-Protection and ‘Caring’
  12. Tactic #6 — Emotional Unkindness & Violation of Trust
  13. Tactic #7 — Degradation and Suppression of Potential
  14. Tactic #8 — Separation Abuse
  15. Tactic #9 — Using social institutions & social prejudices
  16. Tactic #10 — Denial, minimising, blaming
  17. Tactic #11 — Using the Children
  18. Tactic #12 — Economic Abuse
  19. Tactic #13 — Intimate Partner Sexual Abuse
  20. Tactic #14 — Symbolic Aggression
  21. Tactic #15 — Domestic Slavery
  22. Tactic #16 — Physical Violence: the Motivations
  23. Tactic #5 — New tactic added titled: Cyber Abuse

Workplace Bullying and other Institutional Abuses:

  1. Tacticis of Psychological abuse & power and control by Lawyers against Clients
  2. Coping with Psychological abuse, bullying, scapegoating and misconduct in churches
  3. Book Review: Not of My Making: Bullying, Scapegoating and Misconduct in Churches by Margaret W. Jones, PhD
  4. Why do so many women lose custody battles?
  5. Language women should use to persuade Family Court Judges of their competence

Gender Issues:

  1. The Secret to Why Some Men Treat Women as Objects
  2. Women are socialised to find self-worth by living with a man
  3. The Belief in a Just World influences women’s coping strategies
  4. Is men’s abuse of female partners an individual problem or a social problem?
  5. Men say “No” to abusing female partners

Children

  1. Children’s exposure to intimate partner abuse
  2. Abusers gain custody of children
  3. Tactic #11 — Using the Children

Book Reviews:

  1. Not of My Making: Bullying, Scapegoating and Misconduct in Churches by Margaret W. Jones, PhD

News about domestic violence:

  1. News release about male perpetrators of domestic violence
  2. Misplaced machismo behind domestic violence
  3. Many ‘tough’ men suppress a caring urge
  4. Child abuse laws need major overhaul – inquiry

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