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Learn About Coercive Control and Psychological Abuse

Most domestic and family violence is NOT physical.

Coercive Power and Control is one of the lesser understood tools of the abuser.

It’s an underlying plan – the purposeful, deliberate strategy used by perpetrators to entrap, isolate and disempower their victims.

Domestic and Family Violence is commonly recognised as a combination of physical harm, psychological abuse, and emotional abuse. But whilst media portrayal of “bruised and battered” women catches our attention and has brought focus to much needed criminal legislation, studies show the reality that most domestic and family violence does not routinely involve “physical” violence.


Emotional abuses and psychological abuse – still secretively hidden behind closed doors – are now being recognised as the most pervasive wreckers of family life.

Coercive Control leaves no bruising – and fewer witnesses. It is selective and subtle -less obvious to concerned parties.

Safe relationships, equality, caring, sharing and other compassionate qualities are swept away by domestic violence perpetrators leaving victims as mere shadows of their former selves – mentally and emotionally violated and often damaged.

It can appear “normal” … BUT … Coercive Control is Power Play.

It’s the subtle shifting sand of domestic violence where a “usually trusted” partner has undisclosed, often malevolent intent wrapped up in a pretence to the outside world, of things appearing “normal”. The blame for any discord or disconnect is carefully laid at the door of the innocent.

At its most brutal, the results of Coercive Control can be life threatening.


Power & Control Wheel

You need to see the patterns and understand the consequences.

Coercive Control is a dangerous escalation of “normal” domestic and family violence. The skilled perpetrator can be likened to a Paedophile grooming their unsuspecting prey. Their moves can be incredibly subtle and many victims don’t see it coming – or – do not want to believe the deceit they may be seeing as “on purpose”.

If you fear for your safety, feel trapped, have doubts or confusion about what is happening in your life and relationship … you need to review your circumstances.

Learn about the complex patterns of abuse and coercive control that may be playing out in your life.
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“Coercive Control is a minefield of contradictions and I can help you identify the patterns and guide you toward safe and freeing practices.”
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