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Learn About Coercive Control and Psychological Abuse

Most domestic and family violence is NOT physical.

Power and Coercive Control is one of the lesser understood tools of the abuser


Power and Coercive Control has an underlying plan – the purposeful, deliberate strategy used by perpetrators to entrap, isolate and disempower their victims.

Safe relationships, equality, caring, sharing and other compassionate qualities are swept away by domestic violence perpetrators leaving victims as mere shadows of their former selves – mentally and emotionally violated and often battered.

Coercive Control, psychological and emotional abuse is recognised as the greatest wrecker of family life.

 It is secretive – hidden behind closed doors – leaves no bruising – and fewer witnesses. Non-physical abuse is selective and can be very subtle – less obvious to you, to outsiders, and concerned family and friends.

Initially it can appear as “normal” behaviour … BUT … Coercive Control abuse can become dangerous Power Play.

It’s the subtle shifting sand of domestic violence where a “usually trusted” partner has developed undisclosed, sometimes malevolent intent wrapped up in a pretence to the outside world, of things appearing “normal”.

The blame for any discord or disconnect is carefully laid at the door of the innocent.

At its most brutal, the results of Coercive Control abuse can be life threatening.

Coercive Control abuse is a dangerous escalation of “normal” domestic and family violence. The skilled perpetrator can be likened to a Paedophile grooming their unsuspecting prey. Their moves can be incredibly subtle and many victims don’t see it coming – or – do not want to believe the deceit they may be seeing as “on purpose”.

You need to see the complex patterns and understand the consequences of Coercive Control abuse that may be playing out in your life.

If you fear for your safety, feel trapped, have doubts or confusion about what is happening in your life and relationship … you need to review your circumstances.

“Coercive Control abuse is a minefield of contradictions and I can help you identify the patterns and guide you toward safe and freeing practices.”
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"Dear Clare, I just came across your "Tactics of Coercive Control" inventory & wanted to say it's the best I've ever seen in my 30 years as a domestic violence practitioner & activist. Really well done! I am using it with clients already.....I also read your article on the Mask that Men Live Behind...and am glad you

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Online Supervision for Professionals

When someone "gets" you, distance supervision works! From Brisbane, Qld, Australia, I provide Online Supervision anywhere in the world. The professionals I supervise work in some capacity with domestic violence and coercive control and abuse issues. It is often relentless, punishing work demanding great empathy and accountability to people in need of support, resources and care. There

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